By 30, you should have ...
1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
- I can NOT imagine going back to any one of my exes. Not a one. Not na'n one. The mere thought of it is the pits. My oh my have I come along way. I'm thinking that if this thought crosses your mind often, you might wanna "find a resolve" (insider) before age 30...actually before you enter into another relationship. All you'll need is one small argument with your boo, and a random text from the one ex, and you just might find yourself in a world of confusion. Yikes!
- How does one define "decent"? My parents bought me a bedroom set when I moved out of their house years ago. It's obviously not brand new, but it has survived 3 moves. It's in good shape and I don't plan on replacing it until I purchase my home...and even still, it'll probably go in one of the guest rooms.
- In an hour you say? I'd like to spend that much time alone doing my hair! LOL. But I do have the perfect grey pinstriped suit and little black dress (or little pink dress...or little raspberry dress) for either of these occasions. Every woman should have a grey or black suit in her closet. This can be worn to interviews, to church, to conferences, networking events. It's also my opinion that you can never have too many LBDs (Little Black Dresses) that can be worn to parties, on dates, and even to church if it's not TOO little. lol. It's also a good practice to try these items on regularly (to make sure they fit) and be sure that at least one of them is clean at all times.
- If your budget doesn't allow you to shop Louis Vuitton, Gucci, Prada, Kate Spade, whatever, invest in a quality purse that has a neutral color, and that can be worn dressed up or dressed down. Shop Marshall's and TJ Maxx. I've gotten a number of Coach bag from there for much less than what the cost is at the outlet stores.
- While I often think, "had I known then what I know now...," I am content with every decision made and every success (or consequence) I experienced as a result. Each has molded me into the woman I am today. Even in situations where you may feel you've made the biggest of mistakes, know that there is a blessing in every lesson. Learn from it and use that knowledge to make for a greater future. That's a true sign of maturity.
- Not so sure about "juicy" but I'm definitely working on a love story and I can't wait to share it with my grandchildren. Live life intentionally, and with every decision you make, consider how the story will sound years from now if you were to share it with some one, anyone.
- Nobody really WANTS to grow old but I've learned to look forward to it. The only way to escape it is to die young. Unfortunately, it wasn't until the ripe age of 29 that I began to set money aside to fund my old age. Better late than never. (Had I known then what I know now... Smh). I sho nuff plan to enjoy my olden days.
- Check. Check. And check. Got it! Let me add that your email address should be something that looks good on a resume, and you voice mail message should be something appealing to anyone who calls (your mom, your boss, your pastor, the POTUS...)
- By age 30, we should not only be certain the career path that we want to follow, but should have enough work (and maybe volunteer) experience to prove ourselves worthy... (If I knew then what I know now. smh lol). If you don't know. Don't be discouraged! It's never too late! And if by chance your resume is padded, but prepared to put in the extra work to back it up!
- I'm not much of a crier so IDK who this one friend is for me, but laughing and crying are essential to healthy living. Laughter is good for the soul. And Crying is merely temporary relieve of momentary pain. Sometimes crying come from joy and laughter. We are designed to be creatures of release. So don't be afraid to release those tears and release those laughs. Just be certain that your one friend is a true friend. Everyone who makes you laugh and allows you to cry is NOT your friend.
- Living alone for so many years, I did find great use of a set of screwdrivers (tighten towel rack, assembling bookshelves and TV stands, etc), but a cordless drill? Not so much. LOL. Lace bras are nice :)
- Yeah, I still haven't gotten to this point yet. Maybe I can insert my MacBook Pro in this "ridiculously expensive" category but I feel the writer was leaning more towards a $600 dress...which I just remembered I have, or a $400 pair of shoes, or an $800 handbag. Hmmm. "Ridiculously expensive" is a relative term. But we definitely should have have something nice that we really don't need but that we really want. But by no means should we break the bank or neglect necessities to get it.
- I struggle with this one myself. I believe you deserve what you work for. But God shows us favor, and His grace gives us things we don't deserve, not even a lil bit.
- I'm totally failing in this area. I have skin care products, but I don't have a regime, and my exercise routine is limited to my walks to and from the fridge.
- A career is so much different from a job. It's a journey, as is life. If your career is solid and satisfying, so will your life. And a satisfying relationship gives you some one to share it with, some one to support you, encourage you, and cheer you on. I'm certainly off to a solid start and loving it.
By 30, you should know ...
1. How to fall in love without losing yourself. ✓
2. How you feel about having kids. ✓
3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship. ✓
4. When to try harder and when to walk away. ✓
5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next. ✓
6. The names of the secretary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tailor in town. ✓
7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to. ✓
8. Where to go -- be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat -- when your soul needs soothing. ✓
9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents. ✓
10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over. ✓
11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love. ✓
12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or not flossing for very long. ✓
13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally. ✓
14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault. ✓
15. Why they say life begins at 30. ✓
What's on your personal list of things to have and know -- and possibly do -- before turning 30?