Tuesday, January 31, 2006

What is love? (Posted on MySpace 01/31/06

  • What is love?

    Current mood:determined
    Some one asked me this question earlier today. Love is a very complex thing, and it very well may vary from person to person, I don't know, but there are some things that are constant no matter who or what you are loving. For example, love is the ability to tolerate someone regardless of what they do. Being able to put up with someone's imperfections - be it their stank feet, or the fact that they snore - is a sign of sincere love. If you don't love some one, you're not going to put up with stuff like that. But if you love them, it's not a big deal, and if it is, you will adress it with honesty and kindness, without being rough or harsh, because when you love some one, you don't want to hurt them on cause them pain, but you care just as much about their well-being as you do your own. So instead of saying "Damn! yo breath stank" you'll offer them a breath mint, and if the problem persists you take them to the dentist. lol!

    Now, there is "loving" some one, and there is being "in love" with some one. You can love some one with out being IN love with them, just as you love you mother, best friend, or pet. But you cannot be IN love with some one without loving them. If you're truly IN love with some one, when things fall apart, you will still love them, because when you're IN love with some one you LOVE them uncoditionally, no matter what. Even if he cheats, even if she lies, you still love that person and you still want to be with them.

    If you find that you're no longer IN love with some one, and you have no feelings whatsoever - you don't want to talk to them, don't want to see them, don't care if they live or die - then you were never truly IN love with that person. This is called infatuation. When you are infatuated, you have little to no control over your emotions. Your emotions control the relationship. Although this is easily mistaken for love, it isn't geniune love.

    While being IN love involves a certain degree of infactuation, being IN love with some one means your feelings and emotions are REASONABLE. Your REASON rules your EMOTIONS instead of your emotions controling the relationship.

    Real love brings out the best in you. It's exciting and it causes an eagerness to grow and improve. It gives you a greater sence of...I don't know...life. You start thinking about the future., possibly saving. Of course there is much more to being in love. There's admiration and a high level of respect. There's the best-friend factor. There's devotion and effection. And so much more.
    But what do you guys think? Do you think I'm off the mark? Or do you agree? Have you ever felt this way or do you wish to feel this way one day? Hit me back and let me know "What is love?"

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